Love and Hurt...

Dear journal,



If you are not ready to be hurt, you are not ready to love...

I have a friend who has had a severe accident recently; a very bad accident, which caused her heart to break. It started when she dove into a relationship that has an expiration date written all over it right from the start. He loves her, and she loves him, too. But like the best love story ever told, love was just not enough.

It started unexpectedly for the two of them. The friendship that they've had turned into something deeper, which was a surprise for both of them especially to my friend. They did not need any reminder on what they were getting themselves into. When you see love the first time, you'll know it the moment two people touch even when they are apart.

So why did it end then?

Just like the story of the one that got away, timing has everything to do with it. They were ready for love, but were not ready to be hurt. A wise man once said that love and pain are always together; one dare not exists in the absence of the other. They may have found a great love just waiting to be harnessed, but they were unprepared for the low tides that will come their way. There is no perfect relationship, my friend said. I put my hand on her back and said, "I cannot agree more..."

Love has its way of reminding us that no matter how hard you try and how well you manage, if the puzzle does not fit in all the angles, the picture won't be perfect. You can try to cut it, or probably adjust the size, but the point of the matter is, you may fool the eyes, but you can never fool the heart. 

So for you my dear friend, you have to let go because it is the only choice you have right now. I understand how difficult it can be to tell your heart to be deaf and blind for a while. But you have to tame it, for a tamed heart is a heart that can see beyond darkness and can hear beyond silence. If he is braver and wiser, he will come back to you with much fervor than before. When that time comes, even with all the scars and imperfections, the love that you will have can only be described by one word: Perfect.


Remember, lightning could strike anytime...